You know that saying about how you have to want it to get it??
I used that saying a lot along my journey, to inspire myself and to help inspire others, but, for some reason, after talking to alot of different people about their struggles and reflecting back on mine, I can honestly say that everyone who has a weight issue and doesn’t like it, WANTS IT to change.
I hear the desperation in their voices about how bad they want it, I remember how bad I wanted it, I wanted it so bad, I would pray at night, asking God to make me skinny and that then I would maintain it LOL. So crazy, but so real. I remember wanting it so bad that I did crazy fad diets, I popped pills, I starved myself, I cried, I screamed, I hid, I lied about who I was, because I WANTED IT so bad.
It’s not about wanting it; we all WANT IT, with our whole being.
It’s about getting to that point where you can’t imagine staying the same anymore. I remember mine. I was scared, depressed, anxious, mad, embarrassed, disappointed, and afraid for my life, afraid of what I was teaching my kids, and not teaching them.
I had to shift from the WANTING it, to the DOING it. Big difference. We can want things all day long, but if we don’t shift into doing things to make those wants a reality, nothing will happen.
I had to find it in me to do what I was afraid to do, I had to first, really accept what I looked like and how I felt. I had to own that, because it was my truth and it was killing me.
Until we are ready, really ready, in our minds, it is hard to make that commitment to change.
I kind of describe it like a toddler learning how to potty train. I know from experience with my 3, I tried so hard to get my first one to potty train before he was ready, I thought that by a certain age he should be, as that’s what my mom and the books told me, so we struggled, we fought, we cried, we cleaned up a lot of messes, he peed on my floors, until he was ready to make that shift, where he realized that doing the extra work of going to the potty was well worth not sitting in wet underwear, but he had to be ready, he had to be willing to do the work. It was the same with me; I had to be ready to do the work to not feel the same anymore. Wanting it, wasn’t enough, I had to be ready for the changes, because there are lots of changes, and they can be scary, it is a lifestyle change, so life changes, it’s not just your food that changes, not just your body.
Relationships change, friendships change, your likes change, your outlook changes, your way of life changes, and at times it’s sad, because we lose people that can’t handle our changes, but believe me, we gain so much more. We gain a positive outlook on life, and attract like-minded people which in turn keeps motivating and inspiring us to keep going. We gain confidence, new opportunities, we gain a new way of being, we find our aura, we get our groove back, we find new interests, new likes, new dislikes, we find new passions, or reignite a passion we once had and had buried away.
So we can WANT IT all day long, WANT IT till we are blue in the face, if we don’t do anything about it, nothing changes and those wants, are lost dreams and goals.
Be Patient
Be Kind
Believe
xoxox